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ET is with Heidi Montag's mom Darlene as she watches her reality star daughter's controversial plastic surgery video for the first time, and it brings forth tears…
"I just want to start over," she tells ET, wiping away the tears. "I just want to kidnap her and take her and throw her in the car and drive her away. Talk some sense into her. … I wish I could have had a stronger influence on her, you know, just to have her think differently."
Heidi never told her mom she was going under the knife -- much less 10 different procedures in one day -- and the world saw Darlene's shocked reaction on "The Hills" upon seeing Heidi, post-surgery, for the first time.
"Her face … it was still very frozen and kind of swollen," recalls Darlene of the unscripted reality moment. "My heart sunk into my stomach … the fact that she'd gone through something so excruciating, and unnecessarily."
Under the pressure of the cameras, Darlene confesses she "had to spit out all these things I wanted to say that came out too harsh and too aggressive," and now admits, "She has never spoken to me again."
"I definitely had to express my feelings -- it's my responsibility as a parent to speak the truth to my child," she explains. "I can only do that, regardless of the consequences. I will not sit back, even if it's at the cost of a relationship."
Asked if she blames Hollywood for her daughter's extreme makeover, Darlene says, "I feel like that's probably not the best career for her … because of the extremes that she has taken it to."
Darlene, who now works as a house cleaner to pay the bills, writes about the ups and downs of being estranged from her famous daughter on her blog "Metamorphosis of a Mother" at www.darleneegelhoff.com.
"Heidi is just this beautiful, genuine, very loving, very kind, just amazing spirit," says Darlene. "She's the kind of person that would take her jacket on the street and hand it to somebody, and I think she has lost some of that in the world she's in, but she's living in a very superficial world."